Current mood: adventurous
So as most of you know, I have been a huge advocate for the idea of online dating ever since it has become popular. I, however, have managed to be in long term relationships most of my young adult life, with little breaks here and there. I figured this is as best a time as any to be fearless, experience what and who is out there, and just enjoy the freedoms I have at this current juncture in my life (singlehood). I am pretty comfortable with who I am and know what I am looking for in a partner. So with that in mind, I venture into the vast, unknown world of online dating. I have no idea what to expect but you can be sure I will be blogging it all on here for all y'all.
My outlook is optimistic. Why not put your wish lists into the computer and let the higher powers determine and analyze the perfect matches for you. It's just as good a method for meeting someone, if not better, than walking into a bar, hoping the cute guy at the end of the row has personality and the same values and direction in life as you do. So you may have to do some weeding out of the players, and the Asperger's victims... but there are always the sex-hungry and the socially awkward at the dance clubs too.
So now is my lucky day, or should I say yours. I will date for the experience, the stories, and for all of you who are too afraid to do it yourself and report back to you my very special findings.
My first discovery is that e-harmony though very thorough in it's matching is a huge waste of time and life. I don't so much mind answering the 200 some odd questions, but when you are actually interested in someone you have to get through all these "layers" before you can even distinguish between your possible matches.
At the first layer, you can exchange questions you'd like them to answer picked from a list of premade questions with multiple choice answers. Only problem with this is that I get the same freakin' answers from every guy I send them too, so how am I supposed to see a difference between anybody? "If I had a bad day, what would you do for me?" Possible answers: A) rub your shoulders B) talk to you about your day C) make you dinner D) All of the above. Every guy so far has said all of the above. Great, I'm glad I know that now.
By the time I have gotten through all the steps (sharing multiple choice questions, sharing must-haves/cant- stands, sharing non multiple choice questions) I dont even care to email the person 'cause I'm so tired of checking my account and getting useless information, and so bored by the process by this time that I don't even care to check in anymore.
Not to mention each member must create a list of must-haves and cant-stands in which you must check only 10 boxes of a list of about 30 possibilities for each list. Included in the Cant-Stands possibilities are the following choices: "lying," "cheating," "poor hygene," "racist," "excessively overweight," and "mean-spirited." I don't know about anybody else, but why are those first four even listed as a choice? Aren't those somewhat mandatory when relating to another... Who would be just okay with a partner who lied to them, cheated on them, had poor hygene, or was racist... and I'd probably be leary of anyone who didn't list those, who chose to just let those negetive qualities just slllllliide. As long as they're not "petty" or "shy," yeah they can cheat on me. Those are the real cant stands, "pettyness" and "shyness." ;).
Also, after all this, when I went through all my "matches" and found only a couple people I could maybe be attracted to physically, I pressed the button for "more matches," and the program scolded me! It said something along the lines of "You may not be interested in them at first glance, but please take into account that according to our research these are the people you are most compatible with and will make you the most happy. Take a real good look at your choices." I wasn't being superficial. Physical attraction is going to be kind of important for lifelong love. I mean I'm going to need to want to have sex with this person, ever now and again, right? Use e-harmony if you are looking for companionship, I guess.
So anyway, I've given up on e-harmony which is sad, 'cause the idea of it was really genius to me originally. On to Match.com
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